In this whole argument what I object to is women of a certain level or success being told to consider men of little/no success the same way they would successful men. I object to the target of this message. Yes, if you are poor strive to improve your situation in any (legal) way you can, if you are sick try to become healthier, if you are failing school try to become an honor's student, if you can't do something try to improve so that you can. Those are positive and reasonable messages. I don't subscribe to any teachings that you are supposed to be suffering where you are and that is where you are meant to be. I believe and encourage everyone to improve (that's the purpose of this blog). But I object to telling someone to do anything that may be against their best interests and to not strive to be or obtain the best they can. If your grades are good enough for the best school you should apply to that school (and safety schools just in case) and don't apply to the worst school out there. If you are smart then apply to a good job where you can benefit financially from your intelligence, not a job that won't use your talent. If you are beautiful go for the best man you can get, don't go for the ugliest guy just because he needs love too. Aim for what you deserve or even higher, not lower. I have no problems with articles teaching poor men how to score successful women because that would be them trying to win the best!
But this article is backwards and advises successful women to go for poor men...it makes no sense. Well, it makes sense if you think these women are desperate and that's the point! No one would advise you to do something against your best interests unless you are desperate, they are somehow benefiting from it, or if they are just not very smart. If you are not desperate don't take their advice! Next thing you know someone will be advising middle-class women to go to "the hood" to find single men because they need love too and they can raise them to be successful...nonsense! Here are some articles about dating down: Putting Money on the Table, 7 Signs you are Dating Down, Dating Down, the Girl's Advantage (interesting, it's about dating down physically, something that I actually do for the same reasons in the article. Can't trust a guy who's too good looking lol. I go for average cute, even a bit nerdy, my height or taller, but not someone who has every woman drooling).
This is one of THE WORST articles I have ever read on Madame Noire! Was this actually written by a Black woman? It sounds exactly like one of those Black woman haters who feel entitled to any Black woman, no matter how little he has done with his life. The same men who say all you should care about is love (not the fact that he never works, dropped out of school, is a criminal etc...totally unrealistic) and that if you believe in them somehow they will succeed (even if they haven't for 35 years previously). This is that same stupid "raise a man" thing that has been told ONLY to Black women. Enough with the comparisons to Michelle and Barack, he was a Harvard educated lawyer! That was not having nothing! There is a BIG difference between having a degree in lucrative field and being some wannabe rapper!
And the examples of someone with potential you give (someone waiting for the NFL, record contract, becoming a successful artist) perfect examples of long-shots where it's rare for anyone to succeed and you are advising women to go for those men! I NEVER go for athletes, musicians, or artists because they rarely succeed and anyone with sense knows that! Men with degrees have potential and are likely to succeed but that's nowhere in your article!
I can not believe that in this day in age you are actually suggesting a woman stay with a broke man because of his "magic stick"!?? What a brainless piece of nonsense because that magic stick will not pay the bills and sex does not equal love or respect. So many women get in major trouble for that very thing (putting up with abuse, getting pregnant by a deadbeat) because of the magic stick and you are advocating staying with someone because of that???
The most annoying thing about this article is that once again, the poor man is painted as someone who is full of love, good in bed, and has potential. What make you think he has those qualities and a man with a middle income does not? Successful men are just as loving and good in bed, plus they can pay their bills. Poor men need love too...so do stupid, ugly, obnoxious, lazy, drug-addicted, and violent men so should you give them a chance too? Only Black women are given the advice to lower their standards and take a chance on someone who is clearly unsuccessful. Black women raise your standards! If you are successful look for someone else who is and never lower your standards because you feel sorry for someone or because of their magic stick!